Who's Gotta do What?

       Dishes, laundry, cleaning bathrooms, toilets, floors, picking up rooms... when you're in charge of running a house, you realize how much you miss those golden days when you lived in your parent's house and things seemed like they organized themselves! Or at least that's what it seems like thanks to your parents doing all the dirty work for you.

        But well, now you're married and you figure there's one house and two of you so, it's only logical to split the chores. Most of us arrive at that conclusion pretty quickly but... how do we decide who does what? Schedule making is cathartic really and you might even throw in some color into it and make it seem fun... but unless you both develop some sort of system where that list of chores becomes part of your daily routine it's not going to work.

          Why? you might ask. Well, first of all, not everyone had parents who taught them to help them around the house, and even if you were taught about the importance of cooperating around the house, you're likely doing 3 times the amount of housework you used to when you were a child just because mom isn't there to help out anymore!

          Life ain't easy my friends but patience will always go a long way, assigning chores and getting both of you to follow it takes time and understanding. Adjusting to one another is difficult in a marriage and people practically always have different rhythms and rarely have similar outtakes on how much effort they want to put into making their house sparkle and shine.

           That is why you need to set up your schedule and talk to your partner frankly about how you need to split the housework, It's not fair for either one to have all the load, but it's very likely that one of you will probably end up doing more than the other. Find a balance that you're both comfortable with, that balance will shift once in a while in which case you'll have to reorganize the responsibilities and keep moving forward.

            Life is everchanging and that counts for your married life as well. Don't expect for things to come by themselves, coping is a two person job. But above all, love each other. Love is the only thing strong enough to keep us doing things for one another, even if we're not used to it.